Self Confidence through giving back

Everyday we get the chance to find out who we are. But what if you don't know what to look for? How do You become confidant?

Here is a break down of what I'm doing right now.

1) Finding My Passion

2) Positive Self Talk

3) Working Out

4) Giving Back

5) Finding My Routine

6) RED LIPSTICK

7) Learning Something New Everyday

8) Applying What I Learned To My life

9) Change My Perspective 

10) Spread The Wealth!

Last time we talked about working out. I hope you trust this process! I am doing these to gain confidence in my self as well!

My mother always taught me and my sister the importance of giving back, or showing your love and appreciation. Our mother walked the walk too! The biggest example was, even in her last days she was worried about everyone else, mainly my sister and I. Throughout her whole illness she always put others first! She raised money for a coworker that she love dearly, whose husband was dying of cancer and therefore she could not work while caring for him and her children. During that time mom had started dialysis at night from 7 PM until 4:30 AM, and was working 40 hour weeks on top of that!

  

So when the time came around for the anniversary of mom's passing, to honor her we decided two things!

So the walk for Linda was born. I pledged to walk 62 miles in 20 days, so a 5K a day basically, and I asked all of the ones I love to walk with me whether it was half a mile or a 5K a day with me. Why 62? my mom graced this earth for 62 years, so a mile for each year of her life. And from the walk came this idea to motivate my friends and family the day before. The Thursday before the walk My husband and I went to Starbucks and ordered coffee for the nursing staff at the dialysis center that treated my mom. We anonymously dropped it off with a note thanking them for taking care of ALL the patients!

Each day  tried to get to the gym and by the end of the challenge I had surpassed my goal, I walked 62.31 miles

Giving back or honoring those you love is one of the best builders of self confidence you can do. It filled me with so much joy to see that she mattered to so many people and that I mattered to those people as well!

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XOXO

Erin Dowell 

Talk To Yourself!

Everyday we get the chance to find out who we are. But what if you don't know what to look for? How do You become confidant?

Here is a break down of what I'm doing right now.

1) Find your passion

2) positive self talk

3) working out

4) giving back

5) find your routine

6) RED LIPSTICK

7) learn something new everyday

8) apply something new you learned to your life

9) change your perspective 

10) spread the wealth!

So last week we talked about passion, and your why. I hope you found the information helpful.

How do you talk to yourself? No, for real how do you talk to yourself?

"I'm not good enough"

"I'm fat"

"I could never do a thing like that, I would just fail"

"It's too hard and I would never finish"

"I'm not athletic enough"

"To Short"

"To Tall"

"I suck"

If any of those things have crossed you mind, you need to learn positive self talk.

My mother always tried to make me do this, and I always rolled my eyes and walked away.

But now I try to do it daily!

What is it?

Simply put every negative thought that you say out loud or internally, you replace it.

I try to do it every time. Emphasis on try. Positive self talk is a learned behavior, just like negative talk is a learned behavior, and it will take time.

The other day I had an ah-ha moment. I was on the treadmill, I'm going fast (for ME) and I wanted to stop to slowdown, I knew that if I did I would still reach my goal of 3.1 miles.

So I started to talk to myself. you can't do this, your too heavy and you are hurting. Just slowdown.

At that moment I realized what I was doing all of this for. Because my mom couldn't, because I always do this to myself. Then out of nowhere I hear this tiny voice in my head telling the negative voice to shut up. That I got this. Soon it was yelling in my head, so loud that the negative (in my Muggle mind, I picture the small and injured Voldemort in a fetal position) Voices were quiet.

So I want, scratch that, you NEED to have your ah-ha moment. Start now. If you hear or say any of those statements above stop yourself, tell yourself NO, and replace it with a positive message!!! You got this, I know you do, and YOU know you do. SO BRING IT!


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XOXO

Erin

Back at it!

Hey all do you remember me? It's been a while. Almost a year in fact. So much has happened in my personal life. The most significant is the passing of my mom last September. Since then I have moved in to my childhood home with my husband and my fur babies. I have become very reclusive since. So this is my I'm back post. I will be posting everyday on a wide variety of topics from health to my everyday life, to my new weight-loss journey. But first a little FYI I have signed up to be a beachbody coach. I want to help people while I am helping myself. You can sign up for coaching from me or to be a coach on my team, you can also order any of the beachbody products like #shakeology  #T-25 or #P90X . My websites are linked on this page so feel free to check them out! I have a lot of fun things in store on here. 

 I'm so excited for this journey and hope you are too! 

And a fun little fact about me and my husband, we do archery now! Totally awesome!

 

 And we are slightly lighter!